Judo...the longer you just accept things as it, the more she loses respect for you (she already has if she's on the phone all morning on the phone with another man--the nerve!-- in your own home!)
Time to take action. Let her know it's not gonna fly.
The other thing is the book says swallow my pride and suck it up
The book says suck it up and swallow your "pride" (whatever that means) when your spouse is having an active affair? What page number?
Maybe you should buy her some hot new lingerie to wear out on her dates with other men?
Page 214-216
I don't appreciate the dig bro.
I think the point MWD makes is that you can wait things out in the sense that you GAL, LRT, Detach, but still be open t reconciliation if/when she some around. That doesn't mean you have to put up with or enable it while its going on.
We are all here because just like you we were shocked, humiliated, castrated....you name we felt it when our spouses dropped the bomb. We all use different styles to get our point across and one is a little sarcastic humor as a 2x4 to wake up the LBS. We post because we do care in helping the one in need see the path that he/she has to take.
Judo, he!! two months ago I spent two weeks agonizing on whether I should send my stbxw an email wishing her a happy birthday. If her birthday was today I would have treated as just another day. So I guess I am saying is we are trying to wake you up so that you can process your sitch so that you take the proper approach.
