Looking for help with WAW - 2

[mza8]

Well, she's been through a lot too for the past few years. I'm not so sure she was bringing me down, rather she was growing tired of things not getting better. I can see that now. It has been a downer (to say the least) for me for the past year. I do agree that I don't feel that I received the support from her that I gave to her. I also agree that I wish she would help more with the house but she doesn't so I can either continue to let that bother me or not. I choose not to let it bother me anymore. Absolutely agree that she has done nothing to help me work through some sort of closure.

From Michele--Keeping Love Alive:

1)Stop Cause-Hunting
Finding out who's to blame will get you nowhere. Stop thinking about why you're stuck. Focus on what you can do to change things for the better. Start Today! Stop Analyzing things to Death.

This is from another thread and I think it says it all if you still want to try to work on things. At some point BOTH people need to let go of the pain and negativity of the past. I have and she would need to if there is to ever be any progress with us. She's not there.

I don't want to play the blame game with her...it's unhealthy, serves no purpose. I still love this woman and would like a future together. If not now then perhaps down the road.