If the job would be for her, don't. She needs to find one herself, and if she asks you for help, then maybe. But throwing a stack of job apps at her? Nope.
I want her to get a job though. She needs to pay rent.
OM and her had a huge back and forth texting/phonecall this morning. He dumped the other girl and is now pursuing my wife again. She's his backup girl it looks like.
Getting her a job to pay rent is trying to rescue her from CB. Let her find out how much fun it is to be girl2 for OM, and to live on her own budget...
Right now I am really angry. I want to get an attorney and do [censored] to make her miserable. I read the section on infidelity. I know I should wait a few monthes. My goal is to make it to December with out any serious meltdowns.
But I am so angry right now....
and hurt...
I have to finda way to cool off before she comes to pick me up. She spent all morning talking to this [censored] clown. I be the house is a mess still, dishes undone, and she makes no progress on anything.
She day dreams all day.
Today my counselor said thinks she doesn't intend to leave based on her actions. That shes contemplating what to do.
Why should she intend to leave? She's cake eating, you're tolerating/enabling her. As long as it's not too hot in the kitchen, she has no incentive to leave.
Why pay rent in your home where you see her CB. Do what robx recommends. Tell her that you won't tolerate an open M and her CB; therefore, she needs to move out of the house immediately and that you plan to file tomorrow. Let the 22 yr old support her...besides why play second string and live with that emotional roller coaster?
I got off of the ride about 1-1/2 months now and I feel great! Though, my sitch is now beginning to take action I think I am at a level of detachment where I can successfully endure the emotional upheaval.
The vest here stress to take the lead and looking at your sitch from the outside in IMO I would do exactly what robx recommends and do it immediately without emotion.
