I understand your desire to allow her access to this interest of hers, but this promotes her interests to a level of almost equal if not greater importance than your marriage. It's that kind of attitude that caused most of us to end up here. We subordinate our Marriages to the needs of our children, to the demands of our jobs, and to all kinds of outside pressures. While it is important that we not let our marriages consume us to the detriment of all else, lest we become one dimensional caricatures of ourselves, our children, our jobs, and everything else suffers when our marriages collapse anyway.
Your marriage is what's at risk here and it must come first right now. TKD at this school is a direct threat to your marriage and neither one of you should give a rats ass about it right now while you are trying to repair your marriage. Put this into its proper perspective, but let your MC do the heavy lifting here. You don't need to keep hammering this home to her. Get your MC to help.
