She should respect your feeling/thoughts period. Especially when trust is an issue.
You are handling this well. Stick to your guns. Explain to her why this is a problem and even the science behind hormones etc.
Explain to her how it's important that you both define what your "NUTS" are. Your w having an EA/PA is definitely top of the NUT list.
TKD studio are in every strip mall. If she has been with that dojo/school for a long time then she can go to another satelite school or work w another of it's instructors.
Another idea. Was this Jackoff the head instructor? Then traditionally you should be able to train in another form. Then challenge him to a fight to the death then take over his dojo. Works great in Bruce Lee movies.
