Should I stay, or should I go now?

[WithoutANet]

Time to show myself (and him) that I am capable of taking care of myself.

I agree. What sort of "180" can you to do demonstrate this to him? Heck, to demonstrate it to YOURSELF???

I need to detach. I need to stop wallowing in the shadow of this relationship and stop demeaning myself through my own grovelling actions. Jeeze, it's been six months, and I don't really feel like I've made any headway. He doesn't respect me because I don't respect myself.

Detaching,dropping the rope, taking care of myself, and putting my needs ahead of this relationship. That would be a start.