Also, when he returns to his regular squad, he will be working with the female partner -- the one he had developed feelings for. She also tried to convince him to divorce me several times over, so there is no lost love between us.
Well, there's your problem, right there, W.A.N. So long as he went back in contact with her, he's never going to be open to you emotionally. It's a chemical thing, from what I've learned. This is why you see "No contact means no contact" so much on these threads (like Pensacola's wife's TKD example).
Starsky
This is such a tough topic. There's very little he can do -- aside from quitting his job. He has been avoiding her as much as possible. He knows how I feel, and he says he understands and respects that. With city budget cuts, there's little to no lateral movement within the department. He's pretty much stuck where he's at. The real stickler is the loss of his friend and the arrest of his other one. He said it didn't really hit him until he returned to work after his surgery, and now he feels overwhelmed.
Me: 36 H: 36 S9 (from my previous marriage) D2 Bomb-date: 4/7/10 10/10 Giving it six months to see what happens
