May go from Piecing to The Big D

[v1olin]

If she wants to drink herself to death and shag other men -- not your problem!

Please get tested for STDs.

There is a harsh reality check! Seriously though, do you really want a W that gets drunk and sleeps around? Getting tested is a good idea.

[loweinsd51]

House is already on the market and unfortunately I'm going to have to give it back to the bank...such is life.

I plan on filing for D next week...I'm borrowing the money to file from my parents.

I don't plan on staying at my parents an extended period of time as I want to get a place to call MINE and start living life for ME.

Need to split finances in short order

[v1olin]

Make sure you get a child custody schedule put into place quickly. DO NOT let her bully you on that! You make the schedule that YOU want. This is one thing that I wish I was strong enough to do right 1.5 years ago. Now I have less than 50/50 custody.

[soleil]

If she wants to drink herself to death and shag other men -- not your problem!

Please get tested for STDs.

There is a harsh reality check! Seriously though, do you really want a W that gets drunk and sleeps around? Getting tested is a good idea.

It's an excellent idea! Cause you just never know. Seriously. It's a scary STD-filled world we live in!

The house-market-appraisal is also a good idea. She wants to life her life on her own, so start taking steps to make it happen on your end, Lowes!

[loweinsd51]

Make sure you get a child custody schedule put into place quickly. DO NOT let her bully you on that! You make the schedule that YOU want. This is one thing that I wish I was strong enough to do right 1.5 years ago. Now I have less than 50/50 custody.

Yes...can't do 50/50 up front until I get my own place but I would like to write a graduated schedule if possible e.g. 70/30 in the beginning then 60/40 then 50/50

[v1olin]

I did not have my own place either but looking back on it, it would have been hard but I could heve done it. My xw and her L decided that they had set a "precident" with her being the sole caregiver. I did not have the cash to fight it out and I had to settle. If you want 50/50 do it now.

[Starsky309]

Make sure you get a child custody schedule put into place quickly. DO NOT let her bully you on that! You make the schedule that YOU want. This is one thing that I wish I was strong enough to do right 1.5 years ago. Now I have less than 50/50 custody.

Yes...can't do 50/50 up front until I get my own place but I would like to write a graduated schedule if possible e.g. 70/30 in the beginning then 60/40 then 50/50

I'm no attorney, but if I were HERS, I would say "Judge, it sounds like Mr. Loweind51 wants His Honor to afford him on-the-job training, where the children are concerned. We object to that, Your Honor, and would humbly suggest that if Mr. Loweind51 doesn't feel he's prepared to care for his children 50% of the time, that the Court would allow my client her motion for full (or 70%, or whatever) permanent custody."

Just sayin'.

Starsky

[loweinsd51]

You know what...you're correct...I need to establish that up front

[v1olin]

^^^^^^ yes! For now, getting it on paper is what matters! It is very hard to reverse it down the road. Get all your ducks in a row.