Funny I was asked by a divorced woman last night if I would reconcile. I said if the right changes were made, yes I would. She seemed surprised and said she never changed her mind once her D went through. However, she had no kids and was only married a couple of years; now she has been married almost ten years to one of my second cousins and they have two kids. So, that makes a difference in the answer, I think. Although I found it interesting that she said he has crossed paths with her ex only a handful of times in ten years for weddings/funerals of mutual friends. And she said every time she makes sure she gets a new dress and looks gooood. Interesting...
Why is this woman doing this? Two reasons - one is that she is thinking what if he shows up with another woman, I need to be "better" looking than her, it's one big way women keep score (why do women get their girls redone - guys think its funny -its to look better around other cats). When two cats who don't know each other get together how do they act? Women are tough when it comes to commenting on each others appearance. "bless her."
The other reason is she wants her "old" man to notice her and be attracted so she can do what? What would a cat do who walks in a room with it's tail in the air and making noise? The cat runs away when you approach it. The cat whisperer ignores the cat (not really) but lets the cat become interested in him and pursue him (cats love this).
It's just how women behave. A man needs to be aware of how this works. I don't judge just observe and see how it applys to me. This womans current husband needs to be aware at these "meetings" so he can be the man she needs at the time. If he thinks she is dressing up for him and doesn't see it for what it is then beware. This behavior is feeling based and very confusing to men. Dogs v Cats.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
