How to tell the kids

[DanF]

I believe what your WAW was mad about was the fact you waited until she was ready to pull out of the M before you stepped up. If you read Michele's article on the WAW syndrome, you'll see how that fits the pattern.

I have read it and you are right about how she feels/felt. But I did think I had stepped-up by all of the other work I was doing. I understand this point, but I think it is crazy for WAW to believe this.

When a W is ready to leave the M, she has divorced her H emotionally. She may be in the same house with him, but she considers herself D.

Right, she was planning this for a while and used the time together not to work on the M, but rather to emotioinally divorce me no matter what I did.

Focus on spending time with your kids. Do things that will cause the to laugh b/c they need that right now. You aren't going to "measure up" to the WAW by all the housework you do. It's more the attitude than anything else.

Am doing this and I think the kids have more fun with me now than they do with her. At least that is waht they tell ME, but maybe just to make me feel good. Since we are separated, I guess about all I can ddo is get on with my life and wait for her to miss me. I probably need to read DR again, but it is lost somewhere in the boxes from the move. I'll try to find it and brush up on this stuff again.

I just wish there was something I could do to fix this and get my family back. Maybe that would be too hard too. It is just so hard to let it all go and be happy again.

Thanks Sandi!