H's MLC - he is still lost but I found myself

[MHL]

I wonder if it would do any good to let the MLCer know that the LBS would be willing to try and rebuild in a case like that, if in fact they would be?

Nope,

part of the "falling down" or "hitting rock bottom" is the loss of the LBS. As long as they "feel" us standing there waiting on them, it makes that fantasy that more enjoyable.

When the fantasy becomes thier "new" reality.....well then the fantasy ends.....it is now "REAL".

I think, IMHO that the old Relationship, Marriage, whatever has to absolutely die, dead, no pulse for both the MLCer and the LBS for the MLCer to start to look at "Life" again.

It takes time for us, the LBS to let the R die. Doesn't mean we don't love our spouses but the R is dead. After the true death of the R, it will take time for the MLCer to see life for what it is and realize that they are responsible for the unhappy mess they find themselves in.

Happy Little Friday.......remember "Life is Good"

Cheers