I believe what your WAW was mad about was the fact you waited until she was ready to pull out of the M before you stepped up. If you read Michele's article on the WAW syndrome, you'll see how that fits the pattern.

The WAW also feels that the H is showing those immediate changes just to get her back, and it would all stop and go back to the way it was before.

When a W is ready to leave the M, she has divorced her H emotionally. She may be in the same house with him, but she considers herself D.

She'll notice what you do around the house, but she won't have the attitude you had hoped for.

Focus on spending time with your kids. Do things that will cause the to laugh b/c they need that right now. You aren't going to "measure up" to the WAW by all the housework you do. It's more the attitude than anything else.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!