I am working up the courage to reach out to H and just ask "what are you seeking in terms of visitation/support - what do you consider fair/equitable distribution of assets"
I am not seeking to contest the D. By not signing - the divorce goes through by default - so there is no "stopper" there. There are no material things here worth much of anything - we were young when we got married and everything we have shows its age:) I've already told H he can arrange a time to come and pick up anything he wants here.
What's most important to me is being able to see this through and keeping a shred of my value system in place - my H has a sexual addiction that has impaired his thinking and judgment. Caused by MLC/depression? - Maybe / doesn't matter. If he ever decides to get help - I believe that he knows I will be there for him - I've said as much early on in this drama.
25 has been a big help - as well as Brooklyn, Eric - everyone. I have to learn to take these "blows" and not react to them for 24 hours. I typically see things better the next day. I'm sorry for the "catastrophic thinking" I project in my knee-jerk reactions. I am stronger than that! I'm getting better at seeing it from 10,000 ft instead of up close.
Thanks for your help and patience. Don't know what I would do without this site!
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
