I also have friendly relationships with X's. We may have had our moments in our younger years, but right now, my ex-husbands thinks my H is a dipsh@t. I have remained tight with both them and with their families. It can be done. It HAS to be done if there are younger kids involved. I had a very young ( high school) marriage that didn't work out ( Imagine ) and a later marriage of 5 years to an alcoholic work-aholic. Both are still my friends. I can call them at a moment's notice. This may be where you and your H land . . . .BUT, it ain't over til it's over.
You are trying to project yourself into a future where H comes back, even after a D. It happens, but I think you are getting ahead of yourself. You've read these other threads. Sometimes these things get postponed forever for one reason or another. A lot can happen between now and then.
And, the fact is, while I love my two ex's in their own way, would help them in any way I could as they would me, I wouldn't have the marriages back for anything.
I know having papers served is a terrible blow. Guess what? The Deputy Sherriff that delivered my papers is coming into the office today for an eye exam. I have to pre-test him. Feeling a bit embarrassed, but then, I promise I'll never show it.
