me and the kids have been plugging along. with being so faitigued, i am glad no soccer on sat's anymore and we have been so exhaused to go to church.

i exercised twice, ended up unable to walk with joint pain in hip,.

i have been going over this question in my head for a while: is it better for d and s to see their mom/dad together doing things,(giving them a false sense of security of family) or not have any social outings with h?

immediate timeframe, thinking it is ok, but like most children d3 wants mommy/daddy together. she still believes we are 'together'.

thinking of the long term of what i want my children to learn from situation, what values to carry over into their adulthood.

h again has stated he would prefer somone else to watch kids during the day while i work. i said awesome, you can pay for it. of course no comment.

since d3 has been a peer model at school, some concerns came up about her speech, so she is being tested.

let the teachers know, (she attends school with me) that h has a habit of coming and going in her life and it would be a matter of time before he goes out on the lamb.

it is extremely upsetting of what i want to show my kidos. i want them to believe that most mom/dad live together, kiss hug, argue and still are there for one another each day. i want them to not have the attitude similiar to my d18 who has some social problems.

h doesn't think linearly, he is a this second this moment...


Me 39 H 30
d 18 previous marriage
d 2.5 with H
s 4.5months with H
Seperation Nov09
july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline