Continuing a conversation from newmama's thread here:
Violin, it's not a numbers game unless you're looking for notches on the belt . My numbers are similar to newmama's...lots of additional guys trying to talk on IM but mostly that is guys wanting s-x talk and I avoid talking on IM unless I want to go on a date with that person. I could have attracted more attention by being more flirty in my profile or showing photos in more feminine or revealing clothing. I intentionally tailored my profile towards a man who might want to have a conversation with me, not just be focused on my "attributes". I assumed that would generate fewer contacts, and I was OK with that. I think it's finding a balance: you have to put your goods "in the shop window" and show why someone would at least want to go on a date with you. OTOH, I wanted to bring on the flirtation and the cute outfits for the guy who I actually wanted to date, not for the slobberers in the online dating scene.
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. My numbers are similar to newmama's...lots of additional guys trying to talk on IM but mostly that is guys wanting s-x talk and I avoid talking on IM unless I want to go on a date with that person. I could have attracted more attention by being more flirty in my profile or showing photos in more feminine or revealing clothing. I intentionally tailored my profile towards a man who might want to have a conversation with me, not just be focused on my "attributes". I assumed that would generate fewer contacts, and I was OK with that. I think it's finding a balance: you have to put your goods "in the shop window" and show why someone would at least want to go on a date with you. OTOH, I wanted to bring on the flirtation and the cute outfits for the guy who I actually wanted to date, not for the slobberers in the online dating scene.
