Hey LIL, so sorry you are here. This is a hard place to be, I know it.
Just because you filed doesn't have to mean you can't wait some more. IDK what you really want out of this anymore, if you are just done or if you are willing to wait and watch this blow-up in her face, because that is what is likely to happen.
Just try to relax (impossible, I know) and get yourself out of the house. Go find some friends or neighbors or someone to talk to. I just go have a beer with my neighbor or sit at a local tavern for 1/2 hour and chat with the bartender for a bit. You have to do something to get your mind off of this stuff or you will go insane.
I don't really have any other advice for you at the moment, but your situation seems pretty extreme. I'm surprised that more vets haven't chimed in on your thread.
My W blew up on me in January and then waited for the kids to get out of school in June to file. We continued living together until August, when I agreed to move out of the house as part of the temporary agreement. I have my kids on Wed nights and every other Fri, Sat and Sun nites. We have a court date tomorrow that should change that to every Wed & Thur and every other Fri & sat nite and sunday day. We have to get the support payments adjusted for the change in kids nights. We will also be scheduling our final D hearing tomorrow. The the real fun can start. What to do with the house. I want to sell it, she wants to stay, but she won't be able to afford it. She is in fantasy land. She had an EA (I don't think PA, but don't know for sure) for a few months in the spring, but he dropped her when she filed and he wouldn't leave his family. I outed her to everyone.
I do still wish she would snap out of this. She somehow thinks the grass will be greener.
Anyway, just wanted to lend some support.
Hang in there and start to GAL big time. Don't spend any time alone. That is the hardest part. Find some new friends.
Good Luck!!
Thanks DanF,
I filed because I was just tired and wanted to move on with my life. I wanted to save my family, and I still love my wife. I could not deal with her crap anymore, she made it clear by her actions and what she said it was over, there was no wavering at all.
I did it to protect my rights as a father, and my kids rights. They need one stable parent, and I chose to be that person.
Now this death in my family has thrown me for a loop, it's making me 2nd guess.
Why am I 2nd guessing? She still doesn't bother me, has shown nothing in the form of support. I thought maybe something as crushing as this would lighten the fog.....nope
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
