H's MLC - he is still lost but I found myself

[Mila]

Thank you SA, Punkin and CW - I was kind of curious about H's worsening depression and went back to the "other" MCL site to re-read some of the material to see if it means any progress in the MLC stages.

"The repercussions of adulterous and regressive behaviour--the effects on spouses, children, coworkers, friends etc.--will yield greater dissatisfaction, unhappiness and depression. The typical reaction to these consequences is to avoid more, sinking deeper into the fantasy life which will only continue to yield the unpleasant consequences. These in tandem with the opposing regression behaviour create a repetitive pattern of cycling behaviour common to midlife crisis.

Replay will continue until he not only realizes that it is not making him happy, but also that it is making him feel even more lost—that his life is becoming worse. Like an object requiring external force to alter its course of motion, the unpleasant patterns in his life will continue until challenged either externally or internally. When each quick fix he tries fails and he runs out of quick fixes, he can go into Liminality. But even then he may jump or climb out of the pit to attempt additional quick fixes. He needs to run until he's too tired to keep running and too battered to pick himself up when he falls"

Maybe he is moving closer to the next stage...Liminality?

"Some believe that the OW relationship will not survive into Liminal Depression and that this break-up may even be what facilitates the transition into Liminality. Though the latter may be true, it is not so in all circumstances, and the idea that the affair will not continue beyond Separation is misleading. The affair can continue through Liminality, but the nature of the relationship will change. The fantasy woman let her guard down and revealed herself; instead of infatuated, the MLCer may now feel trapped or stuck. Since he’s destroyed everything else in his life, he might as well suffer through it and make this last thing work".

Interesting isn't it? We will see what happens next...where is Old Pilot?...he would offer me some more popcorn LOL