I agree with Mish. Cut Dan off. He is no good for you and he won't see any of this as his problem as long as you are around. Well, maybe not even then, but we can hope.

I know you love Dan, I know you want Dan to get it and come home but nothing has really changed all that much for him to want to. You are still way to available to him. I am reminded of how Samantha broke up with Smith in Sex and the City(the good one). She said she needed to be in a relationship with herself more than with him. Be true to who you are and if he doesn't want that, it is his loss.

So basically it means you need to love yourself enough, to let Dan go.

kat


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