I'm not about to get any invitations, but my H calls around on errands to do with kids, outbuildings etc. Is now fairly pleasant and seeks civil chit-chat, not aggressive and rejecting as in the past. I don't text or ever phone unless kid-related emergency. Only talk about kids, otherwise just listen and nod. Not sulking, I smile until it hurts. He kisses me on the cheek on arrival (custom here) but now also as he goes. Asks me about things other than kids. Volunteers information about his life. So where from here?
I've occasionally given him some things to heat up for dinner when he's got the kids. Is that pursuing? How can one draw the line between being a doormat, pursuing and going counterDB and being civilized, encouraging decent behaviour (where before there was none)? I'm trying to remain just and kind, am I just being a mug? NCU
Me: 46 H:42 Together for 18 yrs, married 14. 3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7. Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation. Separated 08/2010
