Something Good This Way Comes...

[mishka422]

Oh BBJ.....I'm not the one to give you any help with that....OBVIOUSLY.....but I can offer huge hugs and understanding.

I know I've said it before, but IMO the best thing to do is to cut off from Dan entirely and that includes any kind of 'family' time. You are no longer a family and the more you give that to the kids the higher the possibility that they will be hurt even more in the future when one of you inevitably moves on for real. Like ripping of a bandage, it's best done very quickly. Cut it off now.

Thanksgiving is coming up. Other than scheduling, you need to have no crossover with Dan on any of it. Definitely the same for Christmas. Start now. Stay strong. You have to protect your heart and mind BBJ. If it's not good for you (REALLY good for YOU), then it's not good for the kids either. Their mom needs to be a whole person with a whole heart.