Going forward: - get an appraisal done on the home (I'm not saying you have to sell the home but give that impression to your wife that you're considering it) - limit your contact with your wife, talk only about the kids when you need to - focus on you now, you need an education on what contributed to your current situation, on how YOU contributed to your current situation - work on you, let your wife take care of herself and if she doesn't and gets worse and repeats all of her past behaviors again and again, well... that is her responsibility, let her deal with the consequences of that - living at home with your parents, how long do you intend to do that? Have you been looking at renting a place for you to live? What are your options? No complaining here either, how do you make this work for you? How do you make it so that you can stand on your own two feet like an adult man who knows what he wants in life and isn't afraid to speak up and ask for it and get it and make it work
