You have to give her the impression that you are done with her, when you talk to her and "validate" her, you don't give her this impression, you always appear to be the attention seeking spouse who wants back into the relationship - this part has to change.
Agree
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10