I misunderstood validation obviously...I was trying to not talk her out of her feelings
She can feel whatever the heck she wants to feel like, newsflash, you can too!
My point is, what are you trying to achieve by validating her feelings?
You haven't been able to talk her out of her feelings in the past, what makes you think you'll be able to change her feelings by talking like this and if you aren't trying to change her feelings, what was being gained by talking like this, the technical term for how you did it is called "a$$ kissery"
