Robx - I'm not responding to any of her text's via TM especially the last 4 that I posted.
I had to talk to her on the phone about an issue with the bank and our house and told her ""I understand you feel that way and I'm sorry you feel that way. I feel that I was not treated as an equal. Your actions beginning with the Cousin jacuzzi incident and culminating with coming home at 1:30AM drunk vomiting in our bed shows complete disrespect towards me and our 20 year relationship and I will not tolerate such behavior. I respect myself to much to continue a relationship, however long, where myself or the relationship is not valued that's all I'm going to say" and I then ended the call.
The only texts I respond to via TM are those pertaining to DD's and finances. I'll let her rant and rave about whatever without responding. But I couldn't let the "sole source of income and I'm making hard for her to earn $" text go without some response.
Besides, YOU told me that I shouldn't be worried it I upset her or not.
You know something, I could understand if you had cheated on your wife, and you were the one trying to win her back, trying to come back home, why you would talk like this to her, "validating" her by making her feel you understand what she says, etc.
But it's not congruent in this situation, at least not in my opinion. It still feels like a$$ kissing to me.
In this situation, you "validate" her by being real with her so that she knows that you're for real and no longer kissing her a$$ which is so unattractive. What you are doing is a form of pursuit, and why would you be trying to validate her crap behavior, I don't understand that, what is the goal of talking to her like this? There is nothing gained by talking to her like this, it probably sounds as if you are sorry you bothered her when you talk to her like this, that isn't going to work in your situation.
Are you really sorry she feels that way as per what you said? Why would you feel sorry? Does she feel remorse for being immature? Does she feel remorse for having an affair? Does she feel remorse for yakking up left overs in your bed?
