I think once the WAS has clearly and consistently indicated a desire to reconcile, then you can start to accept and initiate invites, to try to repair and heal the marriage. As long as they're still waffling all over the place, accepting or initiating an invite just maintains the limbo.
Playing devil's advocate...without family time (or some other contact), how do they see the "new you" / 180's / etc.?
Or are you suggesting that them feeling you pull back/not focused on them is a stronger message than any face time might provide?
Also, would you the say the same in cases where there was neglect and little family time before the bomb? (i.e., where there would be less of a sense of loss from the pre-bomb situation)?
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
