WAW,,, wow

[Greek]

Greek et al,

I never said TKD was a boundry. the NC is.. how she accomplishes that is for her to figure out.... she has stated that TKD is non negotiable, she will go and continue her climb to 3-4 level black belt. The day she agreed to my drop him from FB requirement (after 3 weeks) she was at TKD and that was when I walked in and called her on her CB.. she went again Thursday but that was the last time. There is no other TKD studio in our area (within 30 miles) so that is not a possibility.

Your answer is, no he is not married he is divorced with 2 kids. I have called him a wolf at the door to our marriage also. It is possible he told her no, and blew her off.. and that could explain much.. and Steve she may have been the predator.. she gave him her phone number.. he called first.. I have the records to show that...

I am unsure now that she says she is committed to the Marriage to bring up TKD.. If I say no TKD with him there and he wont stop going and she wants to.. it will seem like I am controlling her.. how do I get around that?

And you completely support her in her TDK aspirations. But not with him. Gee, I guess we'll find out if she's all in or not. It's you or the OM. It's you or TKD. Same diff.

And that's not controlling. You are not telling her she can't TKD. You are telling her that if she does it with him, you are out. She can choose. Again - all in or not?

Greek

[PMA_Baby!]

that one was as fast and accurate as Bruce Lee's 1 " punch.

Eeeeooooooowwwww!!!!

[Starsky309]

Tough crowd.

And fwiw, I completely agree with them.

Starsky

[Pensacolabroken]

great points

[pookie69]

Tough crowd.

And fwiw, I completely agree with them.

Starsky

You agreeable fuzzy guy aren't you. Agreeing your way to post #19,000.

[Pensacolabroken]

Greek,

I will put in those terms.. I will talk to her about it tonight and tell her I appreciate her sincerity and committment to our marriage. I will tell her I completely support her TKD but not with him and directly ask her what her intentions are. if she says she is going to attend TKD with him there, I will tell her that I will not accept that.

[TimeHeals]

Didn't you already tell her NC?

I'm just wondering why you need to tell her again?

Afraid she might choose him?

[TimeHeals]

I can see discussing it if she brings it up, but.... Am I missing something?

[Greek]

PB ~
One of our sticking points was me taking a PhD in residence away from Coach and the fam. He was dead set against it and we FOUGHT big time over this. Part of coming home and reconciling was for me to recognize what that would do to our M, and for him to articulate his concerns about it in terms that were not controlling. In other words, he went from "If you go, our M won't survive it. You're just leaving us! I'm against it." to "I fully support you returning to school for your doctorate. How can I support you as you find a way to do this within the M?"

See?
Greek

[Pensacolabroken]

I did tell her NC outside the TKD studio.. I left the TKD studio contact soft for now until I had some help from the MC.. she was pretty adamant a few days ago about continuing TKD.

I realize that if she attends the TKD there he may be there.. no way around it when they are both black belts and train on the same class... I was hoping the weight of it would collapse on its own.

I think I need to just lay it down and tell her I want ZERO contact period.