Maybe she could have one done now and save the other one till later.
Sure why not. That's how they do hips.
It's called a "Bo Peep" procedure.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
why would a woman who is so concerned about our finances want to get a bubbie job/sell the house when that will only hurt our financial situation? it's not logic it's how she feels, her feelings can and will change. she doesn't want you to fix her feelings, understand it for what it is - her feelings which are important to her and the key to her heart.
if she dismisses things as 'too expensive/impractical' then why does she want plastic surgery?
the quote above asks the right questions. it's not about the money.
Because, TADA! She has low self-esteem, concerns about her appearance. I know it's about how she feels. But as all the advice has shown, there are a number of ways to address validating/agreeing with her. That's why I posted it.
"Hey Honey. You work for our money too. You DESERVE to splurge on yourself once in awhile. You don't say anything to me when I waste money golfing or buying golf clubs. I think you should really do it if you want to. Don't worry about the money because it is only money and you deserve to treat yourself sometimes after giving to me and the kids all the time. I think you would look great."
Gucci has proven himself over and over to be a very logical and wise man.
Think of it akin to discouraging your boss from giving you a raise. Hooray for Boobies.
"Hey Honey. You work for our money too. You DESERVE to splurge on yourself once in awhile. You don't say anything to me when I waste money golfing or buying golf clubs. I think you should really do it if you want to. Don't worry about the money because it is only money and you deserve to treat yourself sometimes after giving to me and the kids all the time. I think you would look great."
Gucci has proven himself over and over to be a very logical and wise man.
Think of it akin to discouraging your boss from giving you a raise. Hooray for Boobies.
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M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Because, TADA! She has low self-esteem, concerns about her appearance. I know it's about how she feels. But as all the advice has shown, there are a number of ways to address validating/agreeing with her. That's why I posted it.
so which advice would work best in your case? only you know your w best.
i thought gucci gave pretty good advice but you didn't seem to want to take that advice.
Because, TADA! She has low self-esteem, concerns about her appearance. I know it's about how she feels. But as all the advice has shown, there are a number of ways to address validating/agreeing with her. That's why I posted it.
so which advice would work best in your case? only you know your w best.
i thought gucci gave pretty good advice but you didn't seem to want to take that advice.
I agree that the advice would be good in a normal relationship, but I'm not sure now would be the best time to do it. Care to elaborate?
"Hey Honey. You work for our money too. You DESERVE to splurge on yourself once in awhile. You don't say anything to me when I waste money golfing or buying golf clubs. I think you should really do it if you want to. Don't worry about the money because it is only money and you deserve to treat yourself sometimes after giving to me and the kids all the time. I think you would look great."
it's not so much the actual text that's important. but look at how many times he acknowledges her ..
"you work for our money too." - i recognize that you are a contributing partner. "you deserve to splurge on yourself." - you are worth it in my eyes. "you don't say anything when i waste money golfing." - thanks for not making me feel bad for doing it. i really appreciate it.
the "don't worry about the money because it is only money" to reassure her the financial security that may be holding her back.
it's just another creative way to validate.
just out of curiosity .. do you tell her that she's beautiful in her LL? you can say "yes, i do all the time." but are you speaking in her LL?
