My Situation - any thoughts or ideas - Part 2

[bustorama]

I want to explore XYZ's question more. I think its applicable to many sitches.

- Assume separation, but no divorce proceedings yet
- No affair (known of)
- WAS invites LBS to a family meal/activity

Pros of accepting:
- Family time for you and kids
- Opportunity for WAS to see new you/180's/reconnect
- Free lunch! (jk)

Cons of accepting:
- WAS doesn't feel consequences of loss of family unit
- WAS doesn't feel consequences of loss of your friendly companionship
- WAS may still perceive you as at beck and call/attached

Is best "solution" sitch-specific or do people on here advocate rejecting more than accepting (sounds like fun, but I'm GALing, can't make it), somewhere in between or what?

My IC is constantly telling me to accept all invites (he is not DB-savvy).