What would you all do in this situation? Confront him? Drop the rope? All of my things are still down at the apartment. I have the dogs right now, he had planned to come up to visit me and take the dogs back in a few weeks. We also were planning to spend Christmas together...Christ...I don't know what to do. I know that emotionally he is still invested in me. I know that I'm only making excuses when I say this, but I was only the second person he ever slept with, he might have a bit of wild oats to sow still. I am willing to forgive this, in fact, it gives me a glimpse into his own self loathing and guilt now. He has been acting like he is depressed for several months, and this is probably why. He knows I've been a good, loyal partner, and he is doing this behind my back.
I know a bit of what he feels. Eight years ago, when we first started dating, I met another guy, it was a purely sexual connection, but this guy was hot for me, and I was for him. We fooled around a bit, but after about six months I realized I truly loved my boyfriend (now H) and cut it off completely. I never told him about this 'affair' (it was in the first nine months we were dating), but the guilt of it has haunted me for several years.
Should I let him come to this conclusion also? I mean, I wasn't entirely innocent in our relationship (of course it was early, we were young and NOT married)
