I think you are starting to see that detachment and treating our spouses with respect can alter the situation. But what is important to remember is that the detachment is for YOU. It is so that YOU can deal with the crazy that comes your way without letting it get to you. You are still SO focused on "getting your W back". You CANNOT do this. She must CHOOSE to come back. Don't stay the course for HER. Stay the course for YOU and work on YOU. If she does choose to come back, it's not going to be for the same old Bobby O. She's tried that and wasn't interested. Work on YOU!
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
