I can't find my old thread, so here's the new one, with new developments. My H said he wanted to work on the R when I started to detach back in August. Since then he's been hot and cold. I hacked into his email and a girl who he told me was just a 'friend' and who is also married and him have been having chat exchanges...last one I can see is Sept 26. Basically talking about how they would like to meet up, his roommate is out of town, that he was going to call her from a blocked number (because her H is monitoring her phone calls because she has cheated extensively on him). You think finding this out would devestate me. Not so, in my gut I knew it all along. In fact it validates me and makes me feel that it isn't me that is the problem.
My question to the group, especially the vets, is, what do I do with this information? He goes to school with this girl for another year and a half. The fact that she is a giant skank and has slept around a lot, plus she is married makes me certain this is a R that is going nowhere. Plus when they are both done scdhool they will live on opposite ends of the continent. Not that I am happy about living in this 'open' marriage, but I believe it will make things worse if I reveal I was snooping. And really, in the chats there is nothing explicit just that they want to hang out, and we all know that cheaters lie so he will dismiss it as me being jealous.
