online dating tips, do-over

[v1olin]

Oh, and it feels un-natural to me to sound upbeat in an email. In person I am much better.

[soleil]

^ Everyone is better in person, Vi.

Maybe since wii dumped himself he might give me a chance? just kidding!lol

Hey, you never know ...

Don't feel pressured to put yourself out there or like you NEED to meet someone. That is not healthy. Just live your life day to day. They say when you "aren't" looking is when you find someone...

[v1olin]

Well, I know it sounds needy but I paid for the site! I need results now!! haha

[soleil]

Send out a bunch of winks and kissy faces to people!

[v1olin]

Kissy faces? What do those look like?

I just thought of something...I paid almost $800 for db coaching, maybe I need a Match coach?

[kml]

Or just rewatch that movie with Billy Bob Thornton and the guy from Napoleon Dynamite.

[flowmom]

*what* would sound confident

This is what now-boyfriend sent me as a message. I liked it because it was casual, and non-pressuring. It referred to my profile but it was short and it was fishing to see if there was any interest on my part. His second email to me was more self-disclosing.

Sounds like you're having a great summer, me too. We deserve it don't you think? You'll have to tell me about your close encounters of the furry kind.
I too have a busy life but am able to juggle priorities in order to enjoy being curious.

[first initial of real name]

[flowmom]

And many people feel that winks/smiles are intended more for women to indicate openness to messages. Guys should probably initiate things with a message. Seriously, what's the worst that can happen? If you can't handle a rejecting email or no response, you might not be ready to date 'cause I think rejection is part of the process.

[mishka422]

I just came across this funny article about online dating. I thought it would add some extra humor to the discussion.

Online Dating and Real Life

[v1olin]

Seriously, what's the worst that can happen? If you can't handle a rejecting email or no response, you might not be ready to date 'cause I think rejection is part of the process.

I sent out 9 emails and 6 winks in the last two days. I try to find women that I like the looks of and then I actually read their profiles! lol I don't just blast off 100 duplicate emails to see what comes back. I got another wink and an email from a 41 yo woman who looks great but I don't think we have much in common.

AND I got matched with my XW! Turns out we are a match made in heaven with a 93% match! lol