It can be like a guilty pleasure in screwing with them, got to ask yourself does it hurt or help your goal.
No matter how good at this we think we are or want to be, we smile on the inside...sometimes on the outside when the relationship with the OP goes badly.
We like it when they get a taste of the hurt sandwich.
The idea is not to revel in it.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
