Mr.Bond is asking the right questions for you. The status quo isn't working. If you hold firm, you can't win. And it doesn't mean you still aren't YOU. Do something different that is attractive to HIM. Not what YOU think is attractive. Things aren't the way they SHOULD be, they just are.
You have positives. You have a chance. What are you willing to try?
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001