Thanks honeypot. I agree that her feminism presents more of a smokescreen for her lack of desire. As to whether she has any desire whatsoever, it depends. It's been a long time since she ever said that, for example, she had a dream and it made her horny for me. (These dreams were almost always while I was unavailable). I don't know if she currently has any desire for sensual pleasure. I asked her a couple weeks ago if she had masturbated recently. (Believe me, it took guts to ask her that). She said that it had been many months.
Granted, she has had a lot to deal with in recent months. She quit a job, moved to KC, opened a new business, plus we have a daughter, three step kids, a new house. But let's look at this. Our LD/HD problem is not a new thing. All the current stress (new location, job, house) provides is yet another ostensibly valid excuse not to get intimate. I tend to think that there will ALWAYS be some excuse.
