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Let me get this straight, Gucci...

You're advocating that I encourage her (and us) to go into debt for plastic surgery right now...

Maybe when things were better between us, but now? Seriously?

And I have always encourage her to splurge on herself. She has a hard time doing it, she's a frugal midwesterner.

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Originally Posted By: gucci loafer

"Hey Honey. You work for our money too. You DESERVE to splurge on yourself once in awhile. You don't say anything to me when I waste money golfing or buying golf clubs. I think you should really do it if you want to. Don't worry about the money because it is only money and you deserve to treat yourself sometimes after giving to me and the kids all the time. I think you would look great."


I've said almost the exact same thing to her. SHE HATES IT. Feels like I'm never worried about money, that I'm a spendthrift.

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maybe you need to throw in .. "it's only money. i can always make more." .. as a statement of reassurance that i'm not just spending it but i'm also replenishing .. to show financial responsibility and security?

i dunno ..

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Originally Posted By: DumpedforMIL
maybe you need to throw in .. "it's only money. i can always make more." .. as a statement of reassurance that i'm not just spending it but i'm also replenishing .. to show financial responsibility and security?

i dunno ..


Whenever she hears the phrase "It's only money..." she gets really upset. Showing financial responsibility to her is being frugal and conservative.

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Just get them gift wrapped, bring them home and surprise her.

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I've said almost the exact same thing to her. SHE HATES IT. Feels like I'm never worried about money, that I'm a spendthrift.


I don't think this is the time. It looks like a desparate move and like you are trying to buy your way into her heart. Besides, it's not really the boob job, it's about her needing higher self-esteem.

When a woman hints at needing this or that done to her body, she's saying that she doesn't feel as confident as she wants. She hinting for you to reassure her that she's the hottest thing God ever created.

As she gets older, she will need to be told that she is beautiful in several different ways. Be specific. Try something other than what I call the "Husband's Common Compliment"(which is a fall back b/c he's not really using his brain). She gets dolled up and he says, "Oh yeah, you look nice". (I started to add Edith's name b/c I can almost hear Archie saying that, as if his arm was twisted).... grin

I'm not saying you do or don't in regards to all of this. Just throwing my two cents around.


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Originally Posted By: Coach
Just get them gift wrapped, bring them home and surprise her.

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For 5K you can buy the whole doll. grin


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why would a woman who is so concerned about our finances want to get a bubbie job/sell the house when that will only hurt our financial situation? it's not logic it's how she feels, her feelings can and will change. she doesn't want you to fix her feelings, understand it for what it is - her feelings which are important to her and the key to her heart.

if she dismisses things as 'too expensive/impractical' then why does she want plastic surgery?

the quote above asks the right questions. it's not about the money.

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"Honey, we're having a threesome!"

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Just get them gift wrapped, bring them home and surprise her.


He'd enjoy the wrapping part.

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For 5K you can buy the whole doll.


Maybe she could have one done now and save the other one till later. laugh She couldn't have it too enlarged or she'd fall over to one side. I've wondered how those implants works sleeping on the tummy. (Oh, don't even get me started!)


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