H-dog, I still don't get the connection between having sex and being a feminist. Why are they mutually exclusive?
After all, I'm presuming that she enjoys sex when you do have it? Why does it seem that LD spouses view sex as something that is being "taken" from them, as opposed to something that they are taking? She gets pleasure from sex, so I'm not sure why being a feminist prevents her from seeking that pleasure out for herself. In fact, I think that a good feminist WOULD seek it out and attempt to crush the idea that sex is just for men, or sex is for procreation only, or that good girls "tolerate" it in order to keep their men around. It seems to me that her sexual views are decidedly UN-feminist. Ah, it really doesn't matter as I don't believe that her sociopolitical views are what's driving her--the feminism is just a smokescreen to disguise the fact that she has no desire and doesn't know why.
I'm sure that she is a feminist, don't get me wrong, but I doubt that is the root of her anti-sex stance.
Until she is honest with herself in regards to her libido, I don't see her being honest with you. Keep trying to get her to read the book and see what happens.
One final question: Does she have any desire? EVER?
