Should I Tell Her To Move Back.....?

[mza8]

I understand what you're saying however how important is/should the W's GF be to the reconciliation of their M? Should it be a major concern at the first meeting? I think there are far greater issues to resolve then the W's GF. If Gr8's W's reasons for reconiliation are genuine then she will most likely see the negative influences around her. In time, Gr8's W should make the decision on HER own to end contact with the GF. If not then perhaps that's something he pushes for later on.

I believe his W will see his wanting an end to the friendship as controlling. I think she will be going into this meeting with apprehension that Gr8 will try to control things. She will be watching. Why not show her the opposite? Make it about the two of them, not someone else. If they had their first meeting with a MC I'm not sure the MC would begin with them discussing the issue with the W's GF. It concerns me that when Gr8 asked her if she was ready to meet her reply was, "I guess so." To me that says she is either not ready or concerned that Gr8 will push her to far too fast. My 2 cents.