we LBSes have to stick together. maybe you'll help me understand my h. oh wait, he's an alien .. you're not. is there a male alien on the boards?
i understand that it might be too late but just thought i'd throw that example out.
i'm not a DB-er. i'm an excuse-maker and a catastroph-ist who still lives in fear. i can help someone else get rid of their 'fear' but i can't get out of my own. i see hope in other sitchs (you, khudoo, lostnhurt) but i don't see hope in my own.
i'm still trying to wrap my head around a lot of the advice. given here. i am learning bit by bit .. i started reading robx's thread after you had mentioned it. and my goodness .. i saw myself in his posts. you can't be a doormat forever .. and at some point, your self-worth outweighs your situation. i actually got teary-eyed reading that part. to see someone have their self-esteem ripped to shreds on a daily basis is very sad.
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I just wish I would see some progress from the other side.
Ahhh, thanks sweetie. IDK why the WAH's don't post. Must be something different in their wiring....
Of course it is different, they are men!
Sandi, see anything new here or anything I should be doing different? Got a text from W today abt what time a I picking-up the kids, but I texted her that before, so she could have just checked that.
Progress from the other side would be any kind of movement toward reconciliation. Many say it will happen, or they see hope, bit we barely speak to each other. Other guys are getting emails, texts, calls, I get nothing. Maybe nothing is what I deserve.
Hang in there D4, you will get through this and so will I. Tired of feeling sorry for myself anyway. I am a happy, funny person. Time to act like it all the time now.
Good to hear from you again R2C. I wrote a couple of novels. My big issue is that I would like to see some movement towards reconciliation from W.
Found some ladies when I was out with my brother last weekend. Identified them at the first bar, introduced myself at the second bar, bought them a drinks and danced with them for hours at the third bar. They seemed sort of attracted. Didn't really have a chance to talk much as it was loud in the bar.
Talked to another woman who's husband filed on her in June about the same time as my wife. We had things in common and she was pretty hard-up to hook-up, but I didn't. Talked to her for a little while.
I'm still a little nervous about approaching women though. I think I surprised the guys I was with by dancing pretty aggressively with the girls I met. The were pretty good looking too. We ended up leaving the bar before they did and I didn't get any phone numbers. I didn't even think to ask!!!! How dumb is that? Way out of practice. I really don't know how to do this. All of the girls I dated previously I met at work and got to know them first. That is the best way for me, I think. The guys I was with said I did great! I'm learning.
I just heard on the radio today that people who get together when they are 19 yrs old have only about a 10% chance to stay together for life. W and I met when I was 20 and she was 21. Maybe the odds were stacked against us from the start.
I'm generally doing VERY well and having fun most of the time.
Arrived a bit early to pick-up the kids from W's today as my flight landed early. Was on a trip to NJ for work.
W: How was your trip? Me: Fine. W: Two days of work? Me: 3 days.
Some other brief chit chat. Maybe I should have engaged her more in conversation?
Took some kids stuff out to the car and came back into the house to wait for S. He takes a long time in the bathroom. W kept yelling at him to "hurry up". Not sure if she wanted me out or just likes to yell at him all the time. I didn't think she needed to, but I didn't say anything either. D was sitting right there.
Asked W if she voted and D said, yeah, but she didn't vote for your candidate!!! W said she did vote for some of my candidates, just not for governor. She has a state job and the guy I was supporting is a reformer who wants to cut government. She will likely have to pay more now for her cadillac insurance and benefits plan. Said she was trying to look out for herself.
When we left, she said "see you tomorrow" to the kids, but I told her she wouldn't because I was off of work and so she wouldn't need to take them to school because I would. I said goodbye and told her see you tomorrow. We have our court date at 1pm tomorrow. Kids are expecting to go to her house for tomorrow night, but I told them they might be with me. If she consents to the mediation agreement we made, I will have them on Thursday nights now.
Wish me luck. I am hoping for some BIG changes tomorrow!!! W hasn't said anything about it. I'm hoing she doesn't renege on the deal or have some change of plans in mind. If she does, I am just going to let the judge decide.
