What's da haps, man?

[ImprovedRomeo]

TH, in theory yes you could enjoy the process and make light of it. In few cases it works but when one person stands to lose so much it's not an easy feat. For example if you worked all your life and were a saver, while your wife spent every dime she had then at D time she wants more than half of what you saved you wouldn't enjoy that process would you? And if you say you would then you haven't gone through the experience.

In Sol's case it may seem easier because there's not a lot of assets to divide or kids involved but it's not an enjoyable experience. I understand what you're trying to say 'you have to do this whether you like it or not so why not make it easy on yourself and enjoy it' - in theory yes, but even if you're totally detached unless you have the upper hand in the legal proceedings it's just not an enjoyable process.

Sol, if he won't settle then file a motion to appear in front of the judge and be done with it- again not knowing the particulars and the laws in your state that would be my advice. Why don't you call a couple of other lawyers and say you're looking to do an attorney substitution here's where we're at how would they handle the case if you were to hire them? Get a couple of opinions. And your L better give you some straight answers what his next course of action will be or you really should go with another attorney. I know your court date is Mon and this is all too last min but it wouldn't hurt to call a couple of Ls in the next day or two just to get some ideas.

Hang in there...