I have no trouble expressing my feelings to her, have done so in the past, and have been consistent on those feeling in nearly every discussion of this problem for the past two years +. She gets that "I've heard all this before" look when I talk about it. I'm in the "I'm not going to bring it up anymore" period of the cycle, and have been for several months.
As for touching "naughty" parts...there is no way. Those are only to be touched by me as a part of the sexual act. The last time I felt her breasts was in September. Before that, May.