Yes, I have read MWD's position on it and I put a lot of weight in that. He has told them that we are getting a D that I know. However, if he has made it seem mutual like he has with at least a couple of people I know, that will really upset me.

I want them to know I am committed to our marriage and that I have grown and thank them for everything they have done for me.

So... when is the right time for that kind of letter? I know our situations have been similar in some regards, others not so much: we are separated, he filed for D, we don't have kids requiring us to at least talk about that...

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."