And she actually blew off her TKD.. that is a huge step and shows to me she IS in... it took a long time to get that action and it is a monitor
You would be wiser to view this as she is embrassed to show her face and needs to let this all blow over so she can walk back in with confidence and an attitude of "if you did not want me so what I still have my husband. you're loss."
People who do the dumping dont carrying on crying. They usually go out and grudge ****. Not seeking comfort and consolation. They have a cockiness about them that they are better than thou. She held this attitude over you for awhile. You can be certain she didnt act one way before you then go to him crying.
Your "monitor" will be how these two interact in the near future. What you should have learned is you wife is a very good liar. Their eye contact, body language, the one that acts like nothing happened, will be your indicator of why the sudden interest in reconcillation.