I will admit however, that I don't know what it would do ultimately. His parents seem to like me very much and his mom is a strong women... I am sure she would at least question him.

The other concern I have is that it will blow my chance at getting him to go to a weekend intensive with me. Both times I have asked he has said "not yet", not closing the door completely. I have explained that it is for me, I don't want to ever end up in this situation again.
When I spoke with my L 2 days ago, I brought up that this was what I was asking for. He seemed interested in helping me get that. I know that it is not good to force someone to do this, not likely for him to have any sort of open mind. However, if there is anyone that could get through to him, I think it would be this type of environment. I also realize it may do nothing for him but at least I will be able to understand better how I was in the R. I know I have a lot to improve in myself as far as Rs go. I hope to at least get that.

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."