I agree I don't want to enable.
However, there is a language barrier there. His mom and I can not communicate at all over the phone. When I do write them a letter, I will write it in there language with some help from a friend. His dad can speak English but moderately at best and intonations and subtleties are lost.

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."