It is painful PB. My W is talking and talking and talking. Where as before I would shut her out after awhile because every thought that pops in her head seems to want to come out, I have been activly listening. she did say something last night that I did not respond to(old me) and she started to repeat and I turned to her and said "I'm sorry, I heard you I was just processing it" . I got a huge smile and than I repeated it to her. After alot of time really not "listening" you need to listen and process. I should have learned this after my 1st marriage!! LOL
