Ato, yes she is going to counseling . Thanks for your input. I have been following you for the whole time as hope.
TH,
Yes. I am listening to you.
What have I learned? I learned that I lead by emotion and that is dangerous. I learned that I often didnt respect my wife and destroyed her self esteem. I am not owning her EA, that is hers to deal with and we will, but my CB led her to turn me off and tune in to another.
I learned I need to figure out to communicate. I need to really really work on that with her.
I learned that I should have enforced the boundry of no communication with members of the Opposite sex YEARS ago and should never have encouraged her PA 10 years ago.
I also learned I WONT share my wife with anyone.
and I learned this is more painful than anything I have ever faced.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10