Your words -- and more importantly your ACTIONS -- say otherwise, Pcola. While reasonable people can disagree about to what extent you should "make this not easy for them," etc., there is NOTHING that I would characterize as "cautious" about how you immediately responded to your wife the past 48 hours.
As for skipping her TKD class and going no-contact (for now) with OM, I'm afraid I don't award brownie points for simply doing what she SHOULD be doing, to begin with.
