You know my script was pretty close to what really happened. I just didn't write in the hospital ER.
Okay, so enough of the joking. Although, we are all going through our own sitch's yours in comparison to others on this is far more dramatic and that is due in my IMO to your youth.
Coach's right and spend this time by yourself and figure out what John wants and needs. Again, IMO from the description of your W all you will get is more drama and probably an episode on COPS. You can have a healthy R with your W, but maybe not a M. I actually have a strong R with my 1st W because we decided that though we could not remain M we needed to work together to provide a healthy environment for our two sons. Take care of yourself John.